Parents whose children received virtual instruction or a combination of virtual and in-person instruction were more likely to report increased risk on 11 of 17 indicators of child and parental well-being, according to the new CDC study. The agency's researchers looked at survey responses from October and November 2020 from 1,290 parents with children ages 5 to 12 years old.
Nearly 25% of parents whose children received virtual instruction or combined instruction reported worsened mental or emotional health in their children, compared to 16% of parents whose children received in-person instruction.
They were also more likely to say their children were less physically active, spent less time outside and spent less time with friends.
"The difference is like night and day, especially for my kids," Stephanie Kokinos, a mother of two from New York City, said. "I think we've normalized this remote way of learning, and there's nothing normal about it."
Kokinos has two daughters, ages 5 and 7. She is currently unemployed, and her husband works from home.
"I can't even begin to think if I was working during this time," she said. "It really has been a full-time job, just to make sure that their needs are met from an academic standpoint, but more specifically from an emotional and well-being standpoint."
Since the pandemic began, her kids have had to face four separate school closures and returned in-person again March 19.
"It's very, very damaging -- that back and forth with kids -- especially at this age. It's really hard to put yourself as an adult, having a full functioning frontal lobe, (in their shoes with) what they are experiencing and how they're acting," Kokinos said.
"Because you see it differently (in each kid). Some kids are retreating, some kids have kind of lost their spark, they've lost their spirit. Some kids don't have a love for learning anymore," she said. "They're burned out, they have headaches, their eyes hurt. They're not getting social interaction. Their needs are not being met -- period."
Parents are feeling the effects too
This trend held when parents answered questions about their own well-being.
About 54% of parents whose children received virtual instruction reported emotional distress, compared to 38% of parents whose children received in-person instruction. Parents of children receiving virtual instruction were also more likely to report loss of work, concerns over job stability, child care challenges, conflict between working and providing child care, and difficulty sleeping.
Parents of children who received combined instruction were more likely than those of children who received in-person instruction to report loss of work and conflict between working and providing child care. About 43% reported emotional distress.
Lauren Dover, from Brighton, Illinois, is a mother of four -- ages 11, 6, 4 and 2. She has chosen to do remote learning with her oldest two, Brady in fifth grade and Ben in second grade, since the start of the pandemic.
"I'm a stay-at-home mom, and I think that it was better for our family to do it at home, especially because I know a lot of parents don't have the option to stay home. So, I wanted them to be able to take that space in the building," she said.
Although Brady has struggled with missing the social aspect of in-person school due to what in their household they call the "big germ," Ben has had an even harder time.
"(Ben) is very much an extrovert. When he did pre-K, he was leader of the classroom. He was just the social butterfly -- everyone wanted to talk to Ben," she said. "He has so much energy, and it's hard for him to be home."
Addressing this year's particular mental health concerns
Non-White parents and those with children in public school were more likely to report that their children received virtual instruction. Nearly 66% of Hispanic parents and 55% of Black parents reported their children received virtual instruction, compared to about 32% of White parents.
Stephanie Burrow-Carpenter teaches third-graders at Frayser Elementary in Louisville, Kentucky, who just returned to in-person classes.
"I think it definitely varies by student and by situation. We do have some kids who have experienced a lot more trauma than others," she said.
Specifically, she's had to pay special attention to the racial trauma some of her students have experienced because they're in Louisville — where Breonna Taylor was fatally shot by police in March 2020
Because of that trauma on top of the uncertainty caused by the pandemic and shifting between remote and in-person learning, she's placed a special emphasis on her students' mental health.
This appears in her students' "lunch bunch" session with a mental health counselor. Students also had weekly check-ins with the counselor, where they were provided an online form as a way to ask for help without saying it out loud.
Children who aren't receiving in-person instruction and their parents "might experience increased risk for negative mental, emotional, or physical health outcomes" and they may need more support to mitigate the effects of the pandemic, the researchers wrote.
"Community-wide actions to reduce COVID-19 incidence and support mitigation strategies in schools are critically important to support students' return to in-person learning," the researchers wrote.
Not everyone is ready for yet another change
President Joe Biden's administration has pushed to reopen schools during the pandemic, and the CDC recently released guidance for K-12 schools about how to open safely for in-person learning.
Josh Fagundes, father to 8-year-old Gideon and 6-year-old Joel, from Palm Coast, Florida, is most worried about what comes next. The new CDC regulations
recently released are more of a negative than a positive thing in his household -- where his wife's grandmother, who is 81, lives.
Now, his kids' schools are moving to a hybrid system -- where he said one teacher will serve two classrooms, virtual and in-person, at the same time.
"I'm sitting here trying to balance, do we try and roll the dice and put our kids in school? At the risk of everything? Or do we go into this knowing that invariably, it's only going to be harder for this last push to the end of the year? It's only going to get more difficult," Fagundes said.
Experts say heading back to in-person school won't be good for every child's mental health. Some children who were teased or bullied in school or felt freer to express themselves at home outside of their schools' social hierarchies won't necessarily want to go back.
Lenore Skenazy, president of Let Grow
, and founder of the Free-Range Kids movement, spoke with CNN at the start of the pandemic on why some kids were experiencing positive benefits
related to their mood during remote learning.
Some of these benefits children may have seen at the start of the pandemic may still be in play -- like an increase in independence and better skills like executive function: the ability to plan, problem-solve and follow through.
"Just because we were used to kids attending school in person five days a week and then spending a lot of the rest of their time in adult-organized, adult-led activities, doesn't mean that that was the only -- or best -- way for kids to spend their childhood," Skenazy said.
For parents struggling to navigate this difficult time, Skenazy recommends they think back to their own childhoods and zero in on the extra time their children may have outside of remote classes.
"When kids are explaining games or making up new ones, they are building their communication skills. Baking? Basic math skills. Helping around the house teaches responsibility, without which it is hard to succeed at school -- or anywhere," she said.
"So, I'd love parents to feel good about the 'down time' of this strange year, and recognize the growth their kids are experiencing, even when things seem disjointed and kind of crazy and the remote learning part is not going that great."