(CNN)When the pandemic hit, couples found themselves worrying about getting sick, losing income, teaching their children at home while working full time (or worrying full time about sending them to school).
Sex gets complicated during the pandemic
It hardly makes a perfect recipe for sex.
The stress has been too much for one Texas couple in their mid-40s with two children, according to one woman who did not want to be named due to the sensitive nature of the story, given her high-profile job in Austin.
"I stopped exercising because I was too scared of the plague ravaging society," she said.
"While scared and doing nothing, I threw my back out and couldn't move for two weeks," said the woman, who now works her informational technology job from home alongside her husband.
Then her husband had a non-Covid health issue that "doused any embers that may have survived all of our lockdown trauma."
Covid-19 has invaded nearly every aspect of our lives. So, it's no surprise it's infiltrated our bedrooms, too — for better or worse.
Many people are reporting challenges in their sex lives and relationships, according to early findings from the ongoing Sex and Relationships in the Time of Covid-19 study undertaken by Indiana University's Kinsey Institute, which researches issues related to gender, sexuality and reproduction.
The results are a mixed bag so far, said Justin Lehmiller, a research fellow at the Kinsey Institute and the author of "Tell Me What You Want," a book about the science of sexual desire.
"Some people reported their sex lives and romantic lives had improved and were reporting their relationships were better and stronger than ever," he said. "But a larger number (of respondents) reported challenges in their sex lives and relationships."
The study kicked off mid-March, and researchers initially heard back from roughly 2,000 respondents -- 75% of whom were Americans and 25% were from other countries -- between the ages of 18 and 81 in varied relationships. Almost 53% of the participants identified as heterosexual, almost 20% as bisexual and the rest as: queer, pansexual, gay/lesbian or other.
About 44% of participants reported a decline in the quality of their sex lives, with 30% reporting a decline in their romantic lives, according to early findings from the longitudinal study, which is in its sixth wave and will continue for several more months.
Some 14% said their sex lives had improved, he said, and 23% reported their relationship was in a better place.
And summer, Lehmiller said, brought no salvation.
When people are going on vacation and have more free time, there's usually more sexual activity. But the most recent wave of data collection from this summer indicated our sex lives have not yet rebounded to the levels of past summers. "This summer really seems to be the exception to that peak," he said.
Declining quality of one's sex life often correlates with higher levels of stress, according to Lehmiller.
"We know that stress comes from a lot of different sources, it's complex and multi-factorial," he said. "The more stressed people reported feeling, the less desire for sex."
That's true even when business is good. For Marcus Anwar, 31, working long hours in Toronto running OhMy — the classified advertising website he founded in 2017 — appears to be taking a toll on his sex life with his fiancee. With everything moving online, OhMy's revenue has tripled its revenue since the pandemic began, he said, but that has meant less free time for the couple.
"There are days I am working 14 to 16 hours. Having the weekend off is a thing of the past," Anwar said. "When I'm done working, I try to spend quality time with Tiffany. But unfortunately, there are constant calls and emails that I have to answer, making it very difficult to separate work from personal life."
"Even though we've been together for so many years, it just hasn't felt like it used to, when we both wanted to be having sex," said Tiffany, 29, who declined to give her last name for privacy reasons. "(Back) when there weren't a million things we had to worry about or have to get done."
Diana Wiley, a Seattle-based certified sex therapist and licensed marriage and family therapist, told CNN that talking about sex can be very hard.
"Some people are so stressed they've j