(CNN)A few weeks into the coronavirus quarantine, 16-year-old Emmy Apfel was sitting at home in Palo Alto, California, with nothing to do. It was her school's spring break, everything was canceled and the overwhelming boredom left her grasping for something, anything, to occupy her time.
How to find resilience during the coronavirus pandemic
She posted an ad on the website Nextdoor, offering to help tutor younger students at risk of falling behind as schools shifted to online classes. Within 30 minutes, she had received 50 replies.
"OK," the sophomore thought. "We have to assemble the troops."
Apfel organized eight friends into a management team to tutor local students from kindergarten through eighth grade.
They quickly turned it into a burgeoning nonprofit organization dubbed Beyond the Book. One of her friends built the new venture's website in two days so parents and kids could sign up for Zoom tutoring sessions.
By mid-June, Beyond the Book was offering 200 weekly sessions for children run by more than 100 volunteer high school students, mostly in the United States, but one hailing from as far as Ireland.
"I was very surprised (by the response)," she said. "I just wanted to give back to my community and find something to do."
Don't worry. If the pandemic is wearing on you, you don't necessarily need to start a brand-new organization. A journey toward resilience can start with a single action.
"We can all build the muscles and skills of resilience. You may not have them inherently but you can develop them," said Mary Alvord, a clinical psychologist and adjunct associate professor of psychiatry and behavioral sciences at George Washington University.
One of the first ways to make yourself resilient is to begin by reaching out to friends, family or others in your immediate community for connection."It's so critical that you're not just in your head," said Alvord, a co-author of the "Resilience Builder Program for Children and Adolescents."
From there, you can make sure to focus on things that you can control, so that you can also accept the uncertainty of what you can't change.
Despite what's happening outside with public health or the economy, we still maintain our power of self-regulation over our own bodies. That means setting routines for refreshing sleep and eating healthy meals are key ways each of us can directly assert control in a dynamic environment.
"Uncertainty is certain at this time," explained Alvord, who also contributed to the American Psychological Association's online road map to help people build resilience.
She recommended creating an action plan for when things aren't going well. For instance, if you're recently unemployed, try to learn a new skill or to pick up a new hobby.
Building, or rebuilding, one's own confidence during a globally tumultuous time can mean working in our own areas of confidence. You may not have done well in school. But if you were a social butterfly, you can find creative ways to reach out to others, whether that be snail mail cards or impromptu Zoom happy hours. You're helping others -- and yourself.
"Being able to be resilient is being able to think more divergently rather than in a straight line," she said.
The backbone of resilience, Alvord maintained, is community support. The fact that that is harder to achieve now with social distancing in place is one of the most pernicious aspects of pandemic life.
That decline in human interaction during the pandemic has real effects on our brain chemistry, she said. Knowing this is half the battle of coming up with life hacks as we seek to remedy it.
"We don't have enough meaningful interactions with people. We have an oxytocin deficit," said Arthur Brooks, a professor at the Harvard Kennedy School and host of the podcast "The Art of Happiness."
Oxytocin, often called the "love" hormone, is released when we hug or kiss or make love. Parents are flooded with it when they see their newborn's eyes for the first time.
Science shows that humans and dogs feel a surge of it when they gaze into each others' eyes. The lesson here, Brooks said, is that one trick for keeping a cool head during social distancing is to have more sustained eye contact with the animals and humans with whom you share your home.
And when you're out and about, look your cashier in the eye when you talk to him or her. It helps. Brooks told his students that research showed that it doesn't get awkward until you look at a passerby for more than 2.3 seconds. So you can even steal a slight tinge of the love hormone from a passing glance with someone in the produce aisle.
While public health officials haven't been recommending you go around hugging everyone, you can get back to your oxytocin baseline during the pandemic by seeking long deep hugs from your family members, housemates or close friends in your immediate bubble.
In a crisis, humans are wired to respond first with fear and vigilance, Brooks said.
It's no secret that during worldwide lockdowns and quarantines, we all lived through that global atmosphere of fear and vigilance. At times, some people may have felt the lockdowns were too severe, he noted. We all wanted to return to normal, whatever that meant.