Virtual weddings done right by couples undeterred by the pandemic

Brittany and Daryl DuPree of Las Vegas got married May 1 in a local park, limiting guests to about a dozen family members to comply with social distancing guidelines.

(CNN)Marisa Bello always dreamed of getting married under the stars, and she wasn't about to let a global pandemic stop her.

So back in March, when her home state of Nevada started shutting down to minimize the effects of the coronavirus outbreak, she and her fiance, Luis, made plans to drive across the state line into Utah and elope.
They got married on April 3, and the Bellos set up a laptop camera to stream the wedding online so friends and family could follow along.
    There were vows. There was dancing. There were tears. And, yes, it all unfolded under the stars.
      "It wasn't exactly how we imagined it, but it was intimate and wonderful anyway," said Marisa Bello, a Catholic school principal who lives in Las Vegas. "Since we couldn't celebrate with everyone in real life, we just wanted to do something that would bring love into everybody's living room."
        Marisa and Luis Bello of Las Vegas set up a laptop to livestream their wedding, held April 3 in Utah, so friends and family could vitrually join the celebration.
        The Bellos aren't the only couple to pivot to a virtual wedding since the pandemic began. Across the country, a growing number of lovebirds are deciding to get married now.
        As more couples take this approach, some can't-miss strategies have emerged.

          Slay the technology

          Perhaps the most important step in organizing a virtual wedding is making sure the virtual part works. This means nailing the technology, at least as best you can.
          Many couples who have gone the virtual route have gravitated toward running the event on Zoom, a Web-based platform that many businesses are using to facilitate videoconferencing.
          The benefit: The technology fosters intimacy and camaraderie by displaying small video boxes of everyone in attendance.
          The downside: Sometimes sound can be a problem.
          One way to avoid hiccups is to do a dress rehearsal before the event.
          Maryssa Souza, owner of Save the Date! Weddings & Events in Sonoma County, California, was wishing she had done just that after she helped two local clients who got married in their backyard.
          During the event, the photographer's wife managed the technology and had to pause before the ceremony and mute everyone's microphones to avoid background noise.
          "The audio was better than expected, but [considering it was] the first virtual wedding we have experienced, there is always room for improvement," Souza wrote in a recent email. Because the wedding took place on such a warm and sunny day, the photographer set up a giant umbrella to shade the equipment so the devices would not overheat, she added.
          As virtual weddings become more prevalent over the next six months, couples may need to start thinking about production from a different point of view, said Genevieve Roja, founder and principal at Lily Spruce, a wedding planning company in San Bruno, California.
          "What we're talking about basically is TV production," she said. "Each of these is a show."

          Embrace the rituals that matter most

          Just because a wedding isn't taking place in a traditional setting doesn't mean the bride and groom should abandon wedding traditions that are important to them.
          For some, this has meant virtual bachelor and bachelorette parties that include toasts, roasts and, in some cases, dancing. For others, it has been a virtual cocktail hour between the ceremony and reception.
          For Lauren Picard, it was a Zoom bridal shower on April 11, about a month before her small and private in-person wedding ceremony in Ronan, Montana.
          The shower was thrown by Lauren's mother, Debbie Picard. She recruited 20 women in all, including grandmas and great aunts who had never participated in a video conference until that day. Once the old-timers had been trained in the new technology, each participant shared a memory of Lauren or a piece of advice for a happy marriage.
          "It was really special because everyone got to hear what Lauren has meant to them through the years," said Debbie Picard, who lives in Lolo, Montana. "There were quite a few tears shed, and it definitely touched Lauren's heart with all the heartfelt sentiment."
          Rajat Dewan and his bride, Jill, chose to include a different tradition in their virtual wedding: live music.
          The Dewans live in Ann Arbor, Michigan, and were married May 15. As part of the ceremony, they welcomed Erin Zindle, who performed the love song "Medicine," which she normally sings with a band called The Ragbird. The song was originally written for mandolin, but Zindle played it on the keyboard. Family members who logged in from all over the world — India, New Zealand, Luxembourg, England and Italy were all represented — appreciated the touch.
          "It was different [because it was virtual], but it was also familiar enough that people enjoyed it," Rajat Dewan said.

          Get a witness (or 10)

          Most current shelter-in-place orders allow for small groups of people to congregate in the same place at the same time, so long as attendees are wearing face coverings and standing at least 6 feet apart. This means some couples are inviting a handful of close family members and friends to witness the festivities in person.
          The Bellos certainly did this, shuttling roughly 10 people from Las Vegas to Utah for their ceremony at The Springs in Toquerville, Utah.