Public shaming has become a common pastime during the pandemic. But it doesn't really work

People relax at a park in New York on May 3, 2020.

(CNN)Public shaming, in this era of rapid judgment and ensuing internet outrage, is nothing new. But the pandemic has made it a popular pastime.

Runners have been berated for exercising without masks. City dwellers have been criticized for congregating in parks. And beachgoers have been condemned for hitting the sand.
The pandemic has heightened the stakes for every small decision we make about our lives, and people are naturally on edge. But experts say shaming other individuals for apparently going against the rules -- or, public shaming for what you may perceive as public good -- isn't usually the best route to take.
      Here's why we shame others -- and why we shouldn't.

        Why we do it

          It's often a natural response: Shaming or scolding others for not abiding by the rules is a natural response, says June Tangney, a clinical psychologist and professor at George Mason University.
          The pandemic has people understandably worried about their safety. So when someone acts in a way that appears to be putting others at risk, we might get scared or angry. And one way we might express those emotions is by aggressively confronting those who are engaging in behaviors that make us feel uncomfortable.
          People in Boston go for a run on April 17.
          "When we're scared and when we see people doing something that endangers all of us, it's a natural tendency to want to shame them," Tangney said. "It's just not a good approach if, bottom line, you want to see their behavior change."

          We may feel like we're missing out: The impulse to shame someone else might also be driven by FOMO, or the fear of missing out, Tangney said.
          Perhaps you've been diligently wearing a mask on the rare occasions you leave the house, and you haven't been socializing with others. Then you see the images circulating on the internet of runners and cyclists not wearing masks, of people hanging out at crowded pool parties or of beachgoers enjoying a sunny weekend.
          We already know that mass gatherings can endanger lives by potentially spreading the virus to large numbers of people, prolonging and worsening the devastation we're already navigating. So it's normal to feel frustrated by such scenarios, though it's worth noting that some, like running and cycling outside, are relatively low risk.
          "We get this image of half a country having a party that most of us are not doing," Tangney said. "It's natural to become angry and also be afraid and to want to shame people, because we believe if we shame them, they'll stop doing this bad thing. But unfortunately that doesn't seem to be the case."

          Why it's usually not effective

          The thing about shaming is that it doesn't really work, says Tangney.
          It can have the opposite effect: Scolding someone for not following the rules is usually done with the intention of changing that person's behavior. But it typically has the opposite effect.
          People don't like being told what to do. And when they're shamed for behaviors that just months ago felt harmless, they're likely to feel attacked and become defensive, Tangney said. Instead of complying, they might minimize or deny any harm their actions may be causing.
          "You're more likely to hit a brick wall," she said. "And if anything, they're going to dig their heels in and be less likely to think about grandma and the other people at home or whomever they're seeing."
          It drives the behavior underground: Shaming doesn't mean that people won't engage in risky behaviors. Rather, it drives the behaviors underground, says Julia Marcus, an infectious disease epidemiologist and an assistant professor at Harvard Medical School.
          It's something Marcus knows well from her work as an HIV researcher. Abstinence-only messaging doesn't work for sex, research shows. Telling people to refrain from seeing their friends or going outside for an indefinite period of time won't work either.
          "When we have an all-or-nothing approach to prevention, which is what we've been seeing in our public health messaging around the coronavirus, we tend to inadvertently stigmatize anything people do that's not 100% risk reduction," she said.
          She gives a hypothetical example of a group of people getting singled out for congregating in a pool. The group may then choose not to gather again publicly for fear of backlash. Instead, they might hold a house party indoors, where they're safe from public view -- but in an enclosed space, where the risk of infection is higher.
          A group of people float on connected inflatables down the American River near Rancho Cordova, California, on Memorial Day Weekend.
          If an outbreak occurred in that instance and contact tracers were trying to determine who has been exposed, the people who attended the party may be afraid to acknowledge that they were at the event -- and health officials can't reliably contain the virus.
          "Then our public health response ends up breaking down," Marcus said.
          To avoid that breakdown and the high-risk pool party itself, Marcus says our public health messaging needs to convey nuance. People need to feel as though they have other options for social contact so that they don't feel compelled to behave in high-risk ways.

          Why it can be problematic

          It turns us into the behavior police: The guidance around whether masks should be worn and how the virus is transmitted are constantly evolving. Different states have different restrictions. And federal, state and local authorities have often implemented rules that conflict with each other, making things confusing for everyday citizens.
          Nancy Berlinger, research scholar at bioethics think tank The Hastings Center, said messaging on when and how to wear masks needs to be clearer.
          "In these everyday interactions with masks, should everyone be turning themselves into the mask police?" she said. "Or should we absolutely make sure that everyone understands why this is important, how to do it, where to get masks and figure out friendly ways of encouraging each other?"
          People stand in line to enter a grocery store in Washington, D.C., on April 8.
          It makes assumptions about others' behaviors: We don't always know someone else's situation.
          Maybe that the shopper you're side-eyeing at the grocery store just forgot to wear a mask, or perhaps they don't have access to one. Those people you see crowded next to each other on blankets in parks might be a part of the same household, or they might have