A guide to how you can support marginalized communities

Updated 12:15 AM ET, Sat May 30, 2020

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(CNN)The pain felt by black communities after three recent tragedies is all too familiar.

Each time these incidents happen, many of us are left wondering what we can do to support our African-American friends beyond anguished online posts -- and in real, meaningful ways.
Being an ally -- a person who is not a member of a particular marginalized group but seeks to help end the oppression of those in the marginalized group -- is a constant process. Allyship can mean different things to different people, and it can be tough to know where to start.
This is by no means an exhaustive list, but here are some ways that you can support marginalized communities.

(For this list, we consulted resources and recommendations compiled by Soujourners contributor Courtney Ariel, activist DeRay Mckesson, writer and activist Paul Kivel, organizational change consultant Frances E. Kendall, Everyday Feminism and the grassroots organization Hollaback!.)

Reach out

Offer support and comfort.
    Check up on your friends who don't look like you when a high-profile tragedy or incident takes place. Affirm that you are there for them in whatever ways they need.

    Educate yourself and others

    Do your research.
    Do what you can to educate yourself before you ask others to explain things to you. There are a wealth of resources available to you online. Google is your friend.
    Ask questions when needed.
    We're all learning, and it's OK to ask questions.
    But be mindful of who you're asking, says writer Courtney Ariel. Don't lean too heavily on people of color or other marginalized groups to be your "experts."
    It's best if the person you're asking is someone you already have a solid relationship with. And be prepared to accept that some people may not want to discuss those things with you.
    Brush up on history.
      Asking "How could something like this happen?" when another police encounter turns deadly can come across as tone-deaf to communities who have long been dealing with entrenched systems of oppression, Ariel writes. Make sure you're up to speed before you weigh in.
      Influence people in your own group.
      Talk to the people in your own life, particularly those that share the same identity as you, Jamie Utt wrote for Everyday Feminism. Educate your friends and family about how systems of oppression affect marginalized groups. Hold them accountable for their words and actions, as well as the roles they may play in those systems.
      Teach your children.
      It's never too early. Talk to your kids explicitly about racism and other forms of discrimination. Don't teach them to be "colorblind," says author Jennifer Harvey. Let them know it's important to notice differences, and teach them to stand up for others.
      Own up to your mistakes.
      Allyship is a process. Along the way, you're sure to