(CNN)Like most parents, Seagal Hagege, a mom of three in Irvine, California, wasn't exactly looking forward to sheltering in place.
Why some kids are happier right now, and other unexpected effects of quarantine
Together all day? In one house? How would the kids respond?
Much better than she could have ever imagined, it turns out. Over the course of the past month, she said her kids, ages 8, 7 and 4, have become better behaved, kinder to one another and more independent.
"Beforehand, they didn't have a chance to just be present at home. Every day after school we were running to music, running to gymnastics, and then we would get home, do homework and go to bed," Hagege said.
"Now we have a chance to get stupid and take a break together. They've really stepped up, and they are shining," she said, talking about the games her kids are inventing and their new responsibilities like slicing fruits and vegetables for meals.
"It's been really eye-opening. I don't want it to go back to the way things were."
A number of parents are encountering a similar (and unexpected) response to shelter-in-place rules as Hagege: Their children seem happier.
They are less busy, have more control over their time, are sleeping better, seeing more of their parents, playing more alone or with siblings — and feeling better for it.
To be sure, this is but one of many feelings children are experiencing, which also include anxiety, fear and sadness. They're all valid responses to what is not a happy moment for the planet.
And there are a large number of children living with financial insecurity and grief. No sane person would expect kids to be feeling better in those circumstances.
Still, the rise of happiness in the families lucky enough to be experiencing it is notable. It helps parents see some of what was going wrong before the pandemic and contemplate how they might want to restructure their lives after this is over.
While it's too early for any studies on a happiness spike, hundreds of families from around the United States have shared on social media and in discussion boards a sense of relief and joy, which tracks with what we know about the causes of childhood anxiety and depression today.
Between 2009 and 2017, rates of depression rose by roughly 60 percent among those ages 14 to 17, and by 47 percent among those ages 12 to 13, according to a 2019 study. Suicides among 10- to 24-year-olds rose 56 percent from 2007 to 2017.
One of the most well-supported explanations for this rise of mental health disorders is that children have too much going on and not enough choice over what they do. It's a function of a whole society that is overworked and time-poor, and our kids are paying the price for it.
"Kids have been thrown from very adult organized life into one where there is a much bigger stretch of unstructured time," said Lenore Skenazy, author of "Free-Range Kids" and president of Let Grow, a nonpartisan nonprofit group that promotes independence as a critical part of growing up.
Just a few months ago, many families had their daily lives scheduled down to the minute, she said. "When parents are trying to get three kids out the door on a regular school day, they have to be on top of everything. There are just so many contingencies in our super-structured lives, it's like dancing the Virginia reel," an intricate square dance, Skenazy said. "Everything has to be done precisely, or it is just screwed up."