Nearly everything you thought you knew about George Washington is wrong

(CNN)Throughout American history, George Washington has been renowned for being first and much more: his boyhood moral rectitude, for example, and for his body parts -- real and fictional. Whether about his wooden teeth (fictional) or his sculpted thighs (true story), the narratives we learn and continue to tell about the man historian Joseph Ellis has called our "foundingest father" have left an existential imprint on the United States of America.

Alexis Coe
That imprint leaves us with an incomplete and often misleading picture, says historian Alexis Coe, whose new book, "You Never Forget Your First: A Biography of George Washington" is a myth-buster of a Presidents' Day weekend read. Coe -- author, podcaster and a consulting producer on Doris Kearns Goodwin's new three-part History Channel series about Washington -- is the first woman to write a book about America's first president in nearly half a century.
She serves the tea about George Washington in "You Never Forget Your First": he didn't have wooden teeth (he wore false teeth taken from slaves and forged from sculpted chunks of ivory from elephants, hippos and walruses), there was no cherry tree and he was a wigless ginger. We may never "forget our first," as Coe's witty title suggests, but we certainly aren't remembering him as he actually was. (She lingers over how obsessed previous biographers have been with Washington's athletic masculinity, his thighs in particular; the most famous ones describe them as "muscular," able to grip a horse's flanks "with ease" and "well-developed" -- an assessment that Coe writes seems evident from the portraiture of the age, even if the lingering historical attention seems overly lavish.)
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    If you're a lover or student of American history, you'll learn immediate bite-sized lessons from the book's first pages, replete with a ledger of "Lies We Believe About the Man Who Could Not Tell Them" and lists of Washington's favorite things: animals, frenemies and pettiest acts. Here's why that's brilliant: You already know he won the American Revolution, and if you've listened to or seen "Hamilton," you know he did it with no navy and an army that was outgunned and outmanned. But did you know that Washington was a honey-obsessed surrogate father of four who named one of his dogs Cornwallis and ended up estranged from nearly every other revolutionary boldfaced name? After reading Coe's book, you feel like you know him -- his family, his desires, how he failed and grew and became the man who is on our money and inextricable from our national identity.
    When pressed to comment on her contribution to a male-dominated field, Coe -- who shouts out in her preface the transformative work done by Annette Gordon-Reed on Thomas Jefferson and Sally Hemings and by Erica Armstrong Dunbar on Washington's pursuit of Ona Judge, a runaway slave -- marveled: "It's never been a more exciting time to be a woman historian, but there's never been more work to do for women and people of color because those are the groups that have been left out of traditional narratives... It seems as if I'm picking a fight [with this book, but] I just want history to be grounded in primary sources. And I think that I don't view myself as personally disrupting the genre. I view myself as doing work that I know a lot of other women are doing."
    The book's striking title began as a joke to her agent, Coe told me -- a way of riffing on the need to explain why, after all the many popular biographies of the man of Mount Vernon, Americans need another life of Washington to read. Joke or not, as audiences began to react to the title, Coe recalled, "I thought as much as I might come to regret this title, it's doing exactly what I want. It's telling people that this is a different biography that is fun and serious."
    Coe succeeds in that quest admirably in "You Never Forget Your First" -- the humor, individuality and sexual playfulness of its title reflects the illuminating influence the 21st century can have on the early American republic -- revealing the simultaneous personal and political dimensions Coe believes the history of Washington's life deserves.
    This interview has been edited and condensed for clarity and flow.
    CNN: What is the origin story for your book? Why did you want to be the one to write it?
    Alexis Coe: If you had told me years ago that I would write a book on George Washington, I would have thought that was insane. But I love presidential biographies, and I read them all. I usually read a few on one person at a time, and I emerge with a great understanding of who the president was. With one exception: George Washington. When I read books about him, I didn't feel much closer to him.
    I felt compelled to reassess what had been written on Washington. It's very much history that's been written for men, by men, about men. And it shows, from the portraits that are chosen, the titles, to the layout. So in the beginning I list all the diseases that he had, I list his nicknames, I list his frenemies, I list all the myths in a timeline so that people feel like they're ready to take on early America in a way they may never have tried before. Everything that's in there is meant to inform and delight, because history should be fun.
    CNN: You close out the preface with a great line: "The outright fabrications may have stopped, but then mythmaking persists." Why is it so important to debunk particularly the most tenacious myths about not only all presidents, but particularly this president?
    Coe: I really want readers to understand why it's significant that Washington was raised by a single mother, and then I want to proceed narratively as we would when that's treated like a foregone conclusion. For example, in biographies about Barack Obama or Bill Clinton, we always learn that they were raised by single mothers. That's important. Mary Washington lost her parents in young age, and then she lost her husband. She was the second wife, which means that she and her children got very little, and she and Washington had to struggle. In order to understand Washington, you need to understand that.
    CNN: One thing that really stood out to me was your juxtaposition of military and marital familial history, where times of war and personal loss overlapped for Washington. It really shifts the narrative's center of gravity.
    Coe: When we typically read about Washington and the revolution, it's battle, battle, battle, battle. Which is bizarre, because a general was not fighting in the battles, and these battles were being fought all over the colonies. He was mostly in his tent at one site writing letters, or overseeing other people writing letters. I wanted to know what those letters were about. That was George Washington's experience in the war.
    It's important to understand what was happening off the battlefield and who he listened to during that time. Washington was a spymaster, he understood propaganda. He also had a lot of pull from home -- his family was suffering. Remember, Washington was essentially the head of his household at the age of 10. He had all these pressures from home weighing on him in addition to an actual world war that seemed totally unlikely that he would win. The way he responded to those pressures is really revealing. His mother has often been portrayed as ungrateful or naggy. But she was completely isolated in the middle of Virginia, where the British had actually taken the capital, which sent (Thomas) Jefferson running home to Monticello. She had very few resources. She, a woman who was born to an indentured servant, wrote to her son that she never felt so poor in her life. She didn't know if she was going to survive or if her son was going to. Yet Washington was much quicker to respond about ways to maximize the labor of prisoners of war on his plantation than he was to reply to his mother, who doesn't know where her next meal's coming from.
    CNN: What would you say is the biggest or most significant myth about George Washington that's still circulating?
    Coe: Washington has always been presented to me as a sort of reluctant slave master who had this change of heart during the Revolution, and when he died, he did this incredible thing, which was emancipate all his slaves. That is about the most charitable reading you could possibly have about the situation. (Washington stipulated in his will that his own slaves were to be freed upon his wife's death. Martha also owned slaves in her own right.) Washington did not see enslaved people as equal to white people. He did not have a change of heart during the Revolution. He was exposed to people who felt very differently about slavery who he respected and loved, like the Marquis de Lafayette, who then spent decades imploring Washington to emancipate his slaves and sent various proposals about how to do it.
    The second thing that really needs to be clarified about this so-called "great emancipation" is that Washington only emancipated one man outright, and that's the one person he thought of as exceptional: William "Billy" Lee, who had been his right-hand man in the Revolution.
    CNN: What's most important to understand about this myth about Washington as an emancipator?
    Coe: One, he wasn't freeing slaves outright. Two, they knew this, and he and they both knew that his will was going to be public, and that emancipation would look good for his legacy. (According to Abigail Adams, Martha emancipated Washington's slaves a year after he died because she was terrified for her life. She sent several frightened pleas to family members when she thought that slaves were going to burn down her house.)
    Not only that, but Washington knew that some of the enslaved people were likely going to be separated. His slaves and hers had married, they had had children together. Washington knew that Martha was not going to emancipate her own family's slaves. We're talking about 300 people, 123 people who belong to Washington and are free to go. And then when Martha died, their husbands, wives, children, grandmothers, grandfather, grandchildren, they're spread among four different families all over the country as inheritance. It's heartbreaking and I think it's important that we know that before we celebrate this aspect of his biography quite so much.
    General George Washington at Valley Forge in Pennsylvania during the winter of 1777 - 1778.