Kaitlin Hurley, center, watches her rapist's sentencing in Antigua via Skype with her parents in their home in Tennessee.

A former UK officer was convicted of rape on a Tinder date, but his victim says trauma is a 'life sentence'

Updated 6:07 AM ET, Sun July 14, 2019

This story contains descriptions of sexual violence.

Maryville, Tennessee (CNN)Kaitlin Hurley shook her head in quiet disbelief as the defense attorney made one last attempt to save her rapist from a lengthy sentence.

"Bull----" she mouthed silently as the lawyer questioned the extent of her injuries, despite a doctor's finding that she had endured severe physical trauma from the encounter on May 23, 2015.
A jury in Antigua had convicted former London police officer Lee Martin-Cramp in May of raping Hurley while he was visiting the Caribbean island and she was living there as a nursing student.
Now, six weeks later, Kaitlin and her parents were huddled over a laptop in the living room of their Tennessee home, Skyping into an Antiguan courtroom to find out how much time he would serve for shattering their lives.
The Hurley family watches the sentencing of Lee Martin-Cramp on their laptop.
CNN does not normally name survivors of sexual assault. But Kaitlin and her family chose to publicly identify themselves for the first time in an interview with CNN. They hope their story will help others by alleviating the stigma around discussing sexual assault and its lasting impact on survivors and their families, they said.
They also wanted to unburden themselves of a secret they kept from family and friends over the past four years, they said, fearful of disturbing legal proceedings.
The Hurley family said they felt fortunate to have achieved this level of justice.
Four years earlier, Kaitlin's mother, Jill Hurley, says Antiguan police told her the case would go nowhere. Since then, the family had learned how challenging sexual assault prosecutions can be.
But the Hurleys pressed Antiguan and British authorities until Martin-Cramp became the first British citizen to be extradited to the island, culminating in a historic conviction.
After spending thousands of dollars to visit the island for the trial, the Hurley family decided to watch the sentencing from their home.
Kaitlin said she felt a life sentence was justified given the circumstances. The jury had agreed with the Crown's argument that Martin-Cramp used his position as an officer of the law to gain her trust, then drugged and raped her even though she had told him she did not want to have sex.
During the sentencing, Justice Iain Morley noted that five jurors had taken the "unusual" step of returning to the court for the hearing, describing it as a "tribute" to Hurley.
Yet, Hurley had the feeling that no matter how much time he served, it wouldn't be enough to make her whole again, she said. The attack not only derailed her dreams of being a missionary nurse, it had eroded her faith and her trust in humanity, she said.
"I'm serving a life sentence in recovery," she said. "Nothing can make me the person I once was."
Kaitlin Hurley went to Antigua to study nursing.

A Tinder match turns violent

Hurley's dream of becoming a missionary nurse led her to Antigua.
In her senior year of high school, she went on a mission trip to Costa Rica, followed by another one over the summer. She was already planning to be a nurse -- a natural fit for her caring nature, her father says. The mission trips oriented her toward helping others in developing countries.
When her mother found out about a nursing program in Antigua, Kaitlin said it sounded like the perfect way for her to earn her degree while learning skills that would serve her outside of the US.
After she completed her nursing degree, Kaitlin moved back to Tennessee to be closer to her parents, Jill, left, and Derrick Hurley.
After studying for more than two years at Belmont University, she transferred to the Macedonia School of Nursing at the University of Health Sciences Antigua in May 2014.
Nearly a year later, she said she connected with Martin-Cramp on Tinder. A police constable with London's Metropolitan Police Service, he was staying at the Pineapple Resort in Antigua for a wedding with friends and family.
The two started chatting on WhatsApp and making plans to meet for drinks -- and a potential overnight stay. Amid the flirtatious texts, however, Hurley warned Martin-Cramp not to expect sex. Although she did not tell him, she was a virgin, she said, having made the decision to save herself for marriage as part of her Christian faith.

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Martin-Cramp promised to respect her wishes and stay on the sofa. He also shared two photos of himself in uniform. One was a selfie, and another showed him playing soccer with children.

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Hurley said she found the photos reassuring.
"If you can't trust a police officer, who can you trust?" she said.
The two met on May 23, 2015 and shared a bottle of wine at a dockside boat party before returning to Hurley's apartment, according to a witness statement she gave on June 2.
They opened another bottle of wine and Hurley went to her room to change into sweatpants. When she returned, she said the wine tasted different and Martin-Cramp told her that he had put vodka in it.
She took another sip and stopped drinking because she didn't like how it tasted, she said. As they began watching a movie in her living room, she began to feel dizzy, according to her statement.
"From that moment I can hardly recall what [happened] after, because I was feeling so dizzy," the statement says. "But I can recall at one point Lee was over me while I was lying in my bed, I was screaming at one point telling him no and to stop."
She was shocked to find herself naked in bed with him the next morning, she said. After she drove him back to his resort, she said she found a bite mark and bruises on her neck. When she sent Martin-Cramp a picture of the bruises, the texts show that he apologized for the bruises and said nothing further about them.
Three days later, as Hurley noticed more bruising on her body and her pain worsened, she said she reached out to Martin-Cramp to find out what really happened that night. She kept it friendly, she says, because she wanted to stay on his good side so he would tell her the truth.

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Initially, the texts show that he maintained they did not have sex. After Hurley pressed him, however, Martin-Cramp finally admitted to intercourse, saying she had "jumped on top" of him while he was lying in bed and "started bouncing."
Hurley responded in disbelief saying she did not remember it like that.

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Unsure of what to do, Kaitlin said she texted her mother and asked to speak with her over Skype. Jill Hurley got on her laptop in her bedroom and Kaitlin revealed the news.
Even with the television playing in the living room, her father, Derrick Hurley, said he could hear his daughter's sobs behind the closed door.
Jill Hurley said she told her daughter to report the incident to police and get examined at a hospital. Kaitlin went to the hospital first and while she was there, she had her first contact with law enforcement. She gave her first official witness statement days later on June 2.
Eventually, a medical examination confirmed what Kaitlin suspected from the injuries, she had been raped.

A quest for justice begins

While Kaitlin's mother made her way to Antigua, her father said he worked to find out how her rapist could be brought to justice. It would be the start of four years of phone calls and follow up phone calls to officials in Antigua and the UK, he said, pressing for Martin-Cramp to stand trial in Antigua, starting with extradition.
He kept pushing, fearful of what he would do if his daughter's rapist somehow avoided standing trial, he said.
"I never imagined I could be capable of killing someone," Derrick Hurley said. "That's how this has changed me."
For months, he barely slept or ate, obsessing over what he could do to move the case forward.
Because Martin-Cramp had left the island, extradition was the only option, said Anthony Armstrong, director of public prosecutions in Antigua. Seeking extradition was "uncharted territory" for the island, but the jury's verdict validated their efforts, he said.
"We are grateful and humbled that the UK did give due consideration to the extradition request, which went through the legal process," he told CNN.