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Q: Am I a bad parent if I clean up after my kids?

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(CNN)Am I a bad parent if I do the majority of the cleaning up after my kids?

-- Rather Do It Myself

Dear Rather Do It Myself,

So much of parenting requires risk analysis.
    On one hand, we have the future well-being of our children to consider. If we don't teach them to clean up after themselves, they might grow up to be messy and entitled brats.
    On the other hand, we have the current well-being of us, the parents, to take into account. We are living in the age of burnout. Many of us lack the bandwidth -- emotional and temporal -- to get our children to clean up their Hot Wheels on a regular basis. There's so much to squeeze into a day (jobs need to be worked, dishes need to be cleaned, stories need to be read, etc). Is it really so wrong to cut the tedious child-led clean-up session out of the daily schedule?

    Answering your questions about potentially bad parenting behavior. We will help you work through the guilt.

    The short answer is, absolutely not. With few exceptions, there's no single a