However, the two halves of the country have to go back to living, loving and working alongside of each other.
Yes, civility is possible. Here's how to get through the next couple of weeks with at least a modicum of grace and sanity.
Don't rush the process: Tensions will definitely run high. You're talking about a historic election here. If you want to maintain your relationships, Sandella says, you should prepare to talk compassionately -- or not at all. In other words, now would not be the time to point out that you think Trump is the economic juggernaut of our time. "There is a bit of grieving going on," she says "And the people who have had a loss at this level don't want to hear that right now."
Keep it schoolkid simple:
The Emily Post Institute bases its models of common winner/loser courtesy on basic childhood understandings of sportsmanship. It works like a charm, says Daniel Post Senning,
the great-grandson of the organization's namesake etiquette expert."Your job as a winner is not to gloat, not to rub your opponent's face in the loss," he says.
2. How to be a good loser
Show respect for the game: Remember all the uncomfortable conversations we had about who would concede the race and how? Senning says those tenets of sportsmanship should cover you here as well. "Show respect by not calling into question the game itself," he says. "Accept your defeat, and apply your energy to the places where it will do you the most good."
Find ways to talk it out: Sandella, the psychotherapist, adds that, if you're coping with a loss, you should find a healthy place to vent. "It's not with people who are debating you or gloating," she says. "Those are not the people you can safely express with." Sandella says negative thoughts, if left internalized or unarticulated, can really stick in your mind and get blown out of proportion. "Find like-minded people that you can vent with so you can get it over with."
Be wary of social media: So communication is important, but "social media may not be the place," says Sandella. Why? There are too many traps -- too many opportunities to escalate feelings or fall into destructive debates.
3. How to avoid a fight at parties or family gatherings
Re-direct: If the Thanksgiving table starts to get too heated with election talk, Senning suggests bringing up "Tier 1" topics: The weather, the drive over, the food on the table, pop culture, or football. "These are shared experiences," he explains, ones that carry little risk for heightened emotions.
De-escalate: Remember, just because someone tempts you with a war of words doesn't mean you have to take the bait. "It's not a license to respond in kind," Senning says. Remember: The only thing you can control is your reaction. "Take the high road," he says. "You'll feel best about it in the long run."
4. How to handle politics at work
If you want to start a conversation: Politics is what Senning calls a "Tier 2" conversation. Like religion or sex, it's a sensitive topic that inspires divergent and often combative opinions. "If you're going to talk about these things, you have to be willing to listen to someone that has a different opinion than you do," he says.
If you want to end a conversation: "You are also not obligated to have these conversations," Senning says. "If you are willing to cede the last word, or acknowledge that your opinions may differ, it's very hard to argue with that."
5. How to deal with social media overload
Unplug: Even if you were pleased with the election results, the stress of the last two years of campaigning may still get to you. It's perfect