Learn to live with it: Becoming stress-free

When something goes wrong in the external world and it can be corrected, do so. If not, learn to live with it.

Story highlights

  • People believe factors outside themselves produce stress
  • Not so, author and philosopher A. Parthasarathy says -- it's internal
  • Accepting others for who they are will help reduce relationship stress, he says

A. Parthasarathy is an internationally acclaimed author and speaker on the ancient Indian philosophy of Vedanta. He runs an educational and research institution for students from all over the world near Mumbai, India.

(CNN)People the world over believe that stress comes from external sources.

One complains of a nagging wife or hysterical husband. Another finds fault with the demands of work or the exploitation of management. Someone else grumbles at summer being too hot or winter being too cold.
Everyone thus lives with the belief that factors outside themselves produce stress -- so their entire focus is on correcting the external world. Yet despite our best efforts to fix these external factors, the problems remain unsolved and our minds continue to be consumed by stress.