Moms, stop all the judgment!

Story highlights

  • Connecticut Working Moms launched photo series, "Hugs, Not Judgment"
  • In photos, moms hold up signs with messages of support, not criticism, of other moms
  • The project follows the group's popular "End the Mommy Wars" photo series

Kelly Wallace is CNN's digital correspondent and editor-at-large covering family, career and life. She is a mom of two girls. Read her other columns and follow her reports at CNN Parents and on Twitter.

(CNN)Most moms will say that "mom judgment" drives them batty and that they long for a day when moms actually stop criticizing one another.

But how many will admit they actually aren't just on the receiving end, that they do some of the judging themselves?
I'm not proud to say I've done my share of it, especially when I see a child having a meltdown in a restaurant. My compassionate self remembers when my daughters went boneless on me as toddlers, but from time to time, a quick judgy thought comes before the sensitivity: "Shouldn't that mom do something to control her child?"
    Michelle Noehren, founder and manager of the site Connecticut Working Moms, says she's guilty of having similar thoughts when she sees a child having a tantrum in a store. But here's the million-dollar question: Why are we so quick to judge other moms?
    "I think a lot of it stems from feeling strongly attached to our own opinions and choices," said Noehren, a mom of a 3-year-old daughter in Glastonbury, Connecticut. "When we hold tightly to our opinions of what we think is best, it can be hard to understand that others might do something different than we do, and that's completely OK."
    Tired of all the judging and hoping to help pave the way for more sisterhood and support among moms, Noehren and her fellow moms at CTWorkingMoms have delivered an encore to their fabulous photo spread "End the Mommy Wars," which went viral last year.
    In the latest one, which they call "Hugs, Not Judgment," moms hold up signs with messages such as "The mom in me honors the mom in you. Namaste."
    Another sign reads, "If it works for you and your family, stick with it. Try not to think about what everyone else thinks."
    And another, which says, "Trust your instinct. You have the power to know what's best for your children."
    "In a culture that likes to pit moms against moms, it's rare to see images of us coming together in a loving, supportive way," Noehren said.