Once taboo, death in America comes out of its cold, hard shell in unexpected ways

Story highlights

  • The Victorians were open about death; later, it became a topic of discomfort
  • These days, people are starting to talk more about dying
  • Journalist Kate Sweeney's new book explores customs of mourning in America
  • Sometimes those rituals include reefs, roads and roasts
Kate Sweeney first met Oana Hogrefe over coffee at an Atlanta strip mall. They talked about horrible things.
About babies who die in utero and the mother who must go through labor anyway. Or those born with genetic disorders whose parents live through a cruel countdown to the day they will have to disconnect the tubes.
They also spoke about how Hogrefe points her camera at these children and clicks.
As a memorial photographer, she volunteers to take photos in hospitals under the most trying circumstances. Sometimes the images she creates are the only tangible thing parents have left of a child who died at birth or soon