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While accepting a humanitarian award in 2012, "White Collar" star <a href="http://marquee.blogs.cnn.com/2012/02/14/matt-bomer-comes-out-while-receiving-humanitarian-award/?iref=allsearch" target="_blank">Matt Bomer said</a> he "especially" wanted to thank "my beautiful family: Simon, Kit, Walker, Henry. Thank you for teaching me what unconditional love is." The actor married publicist Simon Halls in 2011, and the pair had their three children via surrogacy.

While accepting a humanitarian award in 2012, "White Collar" star Matt Bomer said he "especially" wanted to thank "my beautiful family: Simon, Kit, Walker, Henry. Thank you for teaching me what unconditional love is." The actor married publicist Simon Halls in 2011, and the pair had their three children via surrogacy.

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"House of Cards" star Kevin Spacey came out via a statement on Twitter <a href="http://www.cnn.com/2017/10/30/entertainment/kevin-spacey-allegations-anthony-rapp/index.html" target="_blank">after he was accused of alleged sexual misconduct </a>in 1986 by actor Anthony Rapp when Rapp was 14 and Spacey was 26. Spacey apologized to Rapp in the statement and also said, "I have loved and had romantic encounters with men throughout my life, and I choose now to live as a gay man."

"House of Cards" star Kevin Spacey came out via a statement on Twitter after he was accused of alleged sexual misconduct in 1986 by actor Anthony Rapp when Rapp was 14 and Spacey was 26. Spacey apologized to Rapp in the statement and also said, "I have loved and had romantic encounters with men throughout my life, and I choose now to live as a gay man."

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Aaron Carter shared a note with fans on Twitter in August saying that when he was around 13 years old he "started to find boys and girls attractive." The singer went on to say that at the age of 17 he had his first experience "with a male that I had an attraction to who I also worked with and grew up with."

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Actress Kristen Stewart referred to herself as "so gay" during her monologue when she hosted "Saturday Night Live" in February. In August she opened up more about her sexuality in an interview with Harper's Bazaar U.K.

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Actor Thomas Dekker, known for his roles in "Heroes" and "Terminator: The Sarah Connor Chronicles,"<a href="https://twitter.com/theThomasDekker/status/885662910344708097" target="_blank" target="_blank"> came out publicly via a tweeted statement</a> in July after he said "a prominent gay man used an awards acceptance speech to 'out' me." Dekker also revealed that he had married in April.

Actor Thomas Dekker, known for his roles in "Heroes" and "Terminator: The Sarah Connor Chronicles," came out publicly via a tweeted statement in July after he said "a prominent gay man used an awards acceptance speech to 'out' me." Dekker also revealed that he had married in April.

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Singer Barry Manilow married longtime partner and manager Garry Kief in a secret ceremony in 2014. Manilow came out after news of the marriage was made public in 2015.

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Actor Colton Haynes attends the 2015 March Of Dimes Celebration Of Babies at the Beverly Wilshire Four Seasons Hotel on December 4.

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Jussie Smollett's character, Jamal Lyon, on the Fox TV show "Empire" came out, and so did the actor. Smollett confirmed that he is gay during <a href="https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ivoLY9XhMBs" target="_blank" target="_blank">a chat with Ellen DeGeneres</a>. Earlier, his co-star Malik Yoba had been quoted saying that "I know Jussie; he is gay, and he's very committed to issues around the LGBT community." Yoba later said <a href="http://www.bet.com/news/celebrities/2015/03/05/malik-yoba-claims-he-was-misquoted-about-jussie-smollett-s-sexuality.html" target="_blank" target="_blank">he had been misquoted. </a>

Jussie Smollett's character, Jamal Lyon, on the Fox TV show "Empire" came out, and so did the actor. Smollett confirmed that he is gay during a chat with Ellen DeGeneres. Earlier, his co-star Malik Yoba had been quoted saying that "I know Jussie; he is gay, and he's very committed to issues around the LGBT community." Yoba later said he had been misquoted.

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Joel Grey told <a href="http://www.people.com/article/joel-grey-gay-cabaret" target="_blank" target="_blank">People magazine</a> that he doesn't like labels, but "if you have to put a label on it, I'm a gay man." The Oscar winner and Broadway star is in his 80s.

Joel Grey told People magazine that he doesn't like labels, but "if you have to put a label on it, I'm a gay man." The Oscar winner and Broadway star is in his 80s.

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Country singer Ty Herndon says he started revealing his sexuality to friends and family years ago, but he came out publicly in 2014 in an interview with People magazine.

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Another country singer, Billy Gilman, also came out after being inspired by Herndon, posting a <a href="https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=5N7MBAPZWms" target="_blank" target="_blank">message to YouTube</a>.

Another country singer, Billy Gilman, also came out after being inspired by Herndon, posting a message to YouTube.

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Raven-Symone was in a relationship with a woman at the time, but the actress told Oprah Winfrey in 2014 that she doesn't want to be labeled as gay. "I want to be labeled as a human who loves humans," she said.

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Writer Lauren Morelli said that working on "Orange Is the New Black" helped her realize that she was gay. In March 2017 she married one of the show's stars, Samira Wiley.

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Anna Paquin celebrated LGBT Pride Month in June 2014 by <a href="https://twitter.com/AnnaPaquin/with_replies" target="_blank" target="_blank">proudly declaring her status</a> as a "happily married bisexual mother." The "True Blood" actress has been wed to her co-star Stephen Moyer, right, since 2010, <a href="http://marquee.blogs.cnn.com/2010/04/01/anna-paquin-comes-out-as-a-bisexual/?iref=allsearch" target="_blank">the same year she initially shared her sexual orientation with the public</a>. "Marriage is about love," Paquin tweeted on June 8, "not gender."

Anna Paquin celebrated LGBT Pride Month in June 2014 by proudly declaring her status as a "happily married bisexual mother." The "True Blood" actress has been wed to her co-star Stephen Moyer, right, since 2010, the same year she initially shared her sexual orientation with the public. "Marriage is about love," Paquin tweeted on June 8, "not gender."

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Actress Ellen Page announced she is gay at a Human Rights Campaign event in February 2014. "I am tired of hiding, and I am tired of lying by omission," Page told the crowd.

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In December 2013, "Good Morning America" anchor Robin Roberts came out as a lesbian in a <a href="https://www.facebook.com/photo.php?fbid=378662368936659&set=a.216479948488236.54140.100003786976400&type=1" target="_blank" target="_blank">Facebook post </a>reflecting on the past year and thanking fans for their support after her bone marrow transplant. It was also the first public acknowledgment of her partner, Amber Laign. "I am grateful for my entire family, my longtime girlfriend Amber, and friends as we prepare to celebrate a glorious new year together," Roberts wrote.

In December 2013, "Good Morning America" anchor Robin Roberts came out as a lesbian in a Facebook post reflecting on the past year and thanking fans for their support after her bone marrow transplant. It was also the first public acknowledgment of her partner, Amber Laign. "I am grateful for my entire family, my longtime girlfriend Amber, and friends as we prepare to celebrate a glorious new year together," Roberts wrote.

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In a column in <a href="http://www.nytimes.com/2013/12/01/fashion/coming-out-as-a-modern-family-modern-love.html?pagewanted=2&_r=4&smid=fb-share&adxnnlx=1385932724-M%203LP3afJRl5EQ9uLZ7jcQ" target="_blank" target="_blank">the New York Times</a>, Maria Bello described the process of falling in love with her female best friend, Clare, and how that affected her relationship with her 12-year-old son.

In a column in the New York Times, Maria Bello described the process of falling in love with her female best friend, Clare, and how that affected her relationship with her 12-year-old son.

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Bob Harper's confirmation that he's gay came about as a desire to comfort a "Biggest Loser" contestant. On a November 2013 episode, personal trainer Harper, 48, talked about his sexuality for the first time on the reality weight loss competition in an effort to show the contestant that he doesn't have to be ashamed. "I'm gay," Harper said. "I knew a very long time ago that I was gay. ... And being gay doesn't mean that you are less than anybody else. It's just who you are."

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Maulik Pancholy's sexuality wasn't a secret, but he did take the extra step of going on the record about it in November 2013 -- just in case someone out there wasn't clear. The actor, who memorably portrayed the obsessive and loyal assistant Jonathan on "30 Rock," told Out magazine that he's been in a relationship for nine years. "It feels like a nice time to be celebrating something like that, especially on the heels of the DOMA and Prop 8 decisions," the actor said.

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Ellen DeGeneres came out shortly after her character Ellen, on an ABC sitcom, came out on-air amid controversy in 1997. "I never wanted to be the lesbian actress," DeGeneres told Time magazine. "I never wanted to be the spokesperson for the gay community. Ever. I did it for my own truth." DeGeneres' wife, Portia de Rossi, also kept her sexuality a secret for many years.

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"Fast & Furious" star Michelle Rodriguez<a href="http://insidemovies.ew.com/2013/10/01/michelle-rodriguez-talks-movies-sex?cnn=yes" target="_blank" target="_blank"> told EW</a>, "I've gone both ways. I do as I please," while discussing how many have assumed she is gay.

"Fast & Furious" star Michelle Rodriguez told EW, "I've gone both ways. I do as I please," while discussing how many have assumed she is gay.

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"Prison Break" star Wentworth Miller<a href="http://www.cnn.com/2013/08/21/showbiz/wentworth-miller-comes-out-ew/index.html"> came out</a> after he withdrew from the St. Petersburg International Film Festival in protest of Russia's anti-gay policies.

"Prison Break" star Wentworth Miller came out after he withdrew from the St. Petersburg International Film Festival in protest of Russia's anti-gay policies.

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'NSync singer Lance Bass appeared on the cover of People in August 2006 with the headline "I'm Gay." "I knew that I was in this popular band and I had four other guys' careers in my hand, and I knew that if I ever acted on it or even said (that I was gay), it would overpower everything," Bass told the magazine in explaining why he didn't come out sooner.

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CNN's Anderson Cooper <a href="http://andrewsullivan.thedailybeast.com/2012/07/anderson-cooper-the-fact-is-im-gay.html" target="_blank" target="_blank">came out publicly </a>as gay in an e-mail message to the Daily Beast's Andrew Sullivan, which was posted to the site in July 2012.

CNN's Anderson Cooper came out publicly as gay in an e-mail message to the Daily Beast's Andrew Sullivan, which was posted to the site in July 2012.

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In May 2012, a <a href="http://www.nytimes.com/2012/05/27/theater/jim-parsons-prepares-for-his-lead-role-in-harvey.html?pagewanted=1&_r=2&adxnnlx=1337801974-CDhmsdjfOECg%2028lNllVXw" target="_blank" target="_blank">New York Times</a> story about "The Normal Heart's" Jim Parsons revealed that the "Big Bang Theory" actor is gay and in a 10-year relationship.

In May 2012, a New York Times story about "The Normal Heart's" Jim Parsons revealed that the "Big Bang Theory" actor is gay and in a 10-year relationship.

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Actor Zachary Quinto said he was inspired to <a href="http://www.cnn.com/2011/10/16/showbiz/zachary-quinto-gay/index.html?iref=allsearch">acknowledge his homosexuality</a> in October 2011 after a 14-year-old, who was apparently being harassed over his sexuality, killed himself. "In light of Jamey's death, it became clear to me in an instant that living a gay life without publicly acknowledging it is simply not enough to make any significant contribution to the immense work that lies ahead on the road to complete equality."

Actor Zachary Quinto said he was inspired to acknowledge his homosexuality in October 2011 after a 14-year-old, who was apparently being harassed over his sexuality, killed himself. "In light of Jamey's death, it became clear to me in an instant that living a gay life without publicly acknowledging it is simply not enough to make any significant contribution to the immense work that lies ahead on the road to complete equality."

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"There had never, ever been a country music artist who had acknowledged his or her homosexuality," Chely Wright <a href="http://www.people.com/people/article/0,,20365936,00.html" target="_blank" target="_blank">told People</a> when she came out in 2010.

"There had never, ever been a country music artist who had acknowledged his or her homosexuality," Chely Wright told People when she came out in 2010.

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Pop singer Ricky Martin declared publicly in March 2010 what he avoided discussing for years. "I am proud to say that I am a fortunate homosexual man," Martin wrote on his official website. "I am very blessed to be who I am."

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In April 1998, British pop star George Michael told CNN that he was gay. "This is as good of a time as any," the Wham! singer said. "I want to say that I have no problem with people knowing that I'm in a relationship with a man right now. I have not been in a relationship with a woman for almost 10 years." The pop star died in December 2016.

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After years as a stand-up comedian and actress, Rosie O'Donnell came out two months before her talk show went off-air in 2002. The announcement came during a comedy routine at the Ovarian Cancer Research benefit at Carolines Comedy Club in New York. "I don't know why people make such a big deal about the gay thing," she said during her act. "People are confused, they're shocked, like this is a big revelation to somebody."

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British singer Elton John discussed his bisexuality for the first time in a 1976 Rolling Stone interview. "There's nothing wrong with going to bed with somebody of your own sex," he said. "I think everybody's bisexual to a certain degree. I don't think it's just me. It's not a bad thing to be." John married David Furnish in December 2005.

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Stand-up comedian and actress Wanda Sykes announced her sexual orientation -- and her marriage -- in 2008 at a rally for gay marriage. "You know, I don't really talk about my sexual orientation," Sykes said. "I didn't feel like I had to. I was just living my life, not necessarily in the closet, but I was living my life. ... But I got pissed off. They pissed me off. I said, 'You know what? Now I gotta get in your face.' " Sykes was referring to the passage of Proposition 8, banning gay marriage, in California days after her wedding.

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Reports of "Sex and the City" star Cynthia Nixon's relationship with Christine Marinoni surfaced in 2004, six years after the television show's premiere. Nixon discussed her relationship with New York Magazine in 2006, saying, "I never felt like there was an unconscious part of me around that woke up or that came out of the closet; there wasn't a struggle; there wasn't an attempt to suppress. I met this woman, I fell in love with her, and I'm a public figure."

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Once known best as the TV character he played during childhood, Doogie Howser, Neil Patrick Harris has continued his successful acting career as an adult. Harris often walks the red carpet with partner David Burtka and starred in the hit sitcom "How I Met Your Mother." He told People magazine in 2006 that he is, in fact, gay. "I am happy to dispel any rumors or misconceptions and am quite proud to say that I am a very content gay man."

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"Family Ties" actress Meredith Baxter confirmed in December 2009 rumors that she is a lesbian. "Anyone who's a friend of mine, anyone who knows and cares about me, knows," the actress explained to Matt Lauer on the "Today" show. "It's no secret that I'm gay, but it has been to the greater world." Baxter is in a long-term relationship with a building contractor, Nancy Locke.

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He had an 11-year run on "Frasier," but it wasn't until he returned to Broadway in 2007 that David Hyde Pierce confirmed his sexuality. The actor is <a href="http://www.eonline.com/news/david_hyde_pierce_reveals_marriage_prop/126421" target="_blank" target="_blank">married</a> to writer/producer/director Brian Hargrove. Pierce first talked about his partner in an Associated Press interview about his Tony-nominated performance in "Curtains."

He had an 11-year run on "Frasier," but it wasn't until he returned to Broadway in 2007 that David Hyde Pierce confirmed his sexuality. The actor is married to writer/producer/director Brian Hargrove. Pierce first talked about his partner in an Associated Press interview about his Tony-nominated performance in "Curtains."

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Coming out in Hollywood

Story highlights

Portia de Rossi truly came out during her relationship with Ellen DeGeneres

The actress said as much to James Lipton on "Inside the Actor's Studio"

DeGeneres and de Rossi went on to marry in 2008

In 2010, de Rossi took DeGeneres' last name

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To Portia de Rossi, Ellen DeGeneres is more than a spouse.

She’s also the woman who stood by the actress when de Rossi truly came out as a gay woman to the public.

De Rossi, now 40, recalled the moment on “Inside the Actor’s Studio” Thursday, as she sat among her “Arrested Development” co-stars.

The program’s host, James Lipton, had been asking de Rossi about her name change – she took DeGeneres’ last name in 2010 – and the couple’s 2008 marriage.

As de Rossi explained, it actually wasn’t that long before she tied the knot with DeGeneres in an intimate ceremony in Los Angeles that she was totally transparent about her sexuality.

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“When I really, truly came out was at the Golden Globes, when ‘Arrested Development’ was nominated,” said de Rossi, who started seeing DeGeneres around the end of 2004.

“Ellen and I had been together for a month, and I was very, very nervous going to that because I knew that I was going to meet up with her after the show and that there was press,” de Rossi continued. “That was the first time that we actually stepped out together as a couple, but for me, it was the first time that I’d stepped out as a gay woman, really.”

As for de Rossi’s wife, DeGeneres had confirmed she was gay almost a decade before. The comedian and TV personality, now 55, memorably came out on the cover of Time in 1997.