Weddings -- who pays for what?

Story highlights

  • Rules are meant to be broken, but guidelines can be helpful
  • Many brides and grooms opt to pay their own expenses
  • Parents often want to pitch in, and tradition dictates certain roles
  • All parties should be happy with their level of contribution
Today, most people believe the couple should pay for their own wedding, especially if they have lived on their own for some time. Of course, parents often want to pitch in. Contributions should be negotiated according to willingness and ability, but the traditional divisions will offer some more guidance.
The Engagement Party
Traditionally, the bride's parents (although anyone can host) will throw an engagement party for their daughter and her husband-to-be, for the express purpose of welcoming him and introducing friends and extended family to the groom and his family and friends.