This week’s provocative TIME Magazine cover features a woman breastfeeding her 3-year-old son, inspiring Soledad’s panel discussion this morning. Belinda Luscombe, editor of TIME, expands her view on the article.
“We could not have attachment parenting if we hadn’t first had feminism,” Luscome explains. “If you want to be a successful woman, you have to over-deliver. You need to work harder at what you do and be better at it. And I think women have brought all that energy and engagement and education and said, ‘I’m going to be the mother of all mothers.’”
Attachment parenting is, according to baby guru Dr. Sears, “a style of caring for your infant that brings out the best in the baby and the best in the parents.”
There are seven “Baby B’s” that go along with attachment parenting. They are:
1. Birth bonding– Parents should be vigilant about developing an intimate bond with their child as soon as possible post-birth.
2. Breastfeeding– The subject has been a debate among parents, but facts are facts: breast milk contains nutrients unique to the mother’s body, and that physical attachment familiarizes body language.
3. Baby-wearing– Wearing your baby allows you to develop familiarity while allowing your child to absorb many environments in a quiet, alert state.
4. Bedding close to baby– Co-sleeping gives time for working parents to bond with children at night, as well as reduce nightmares and separation anxiety.
5. Belief in the language value of your baby’s cry– Crying is the baby’s primary form of communication, and parental responsiveness encourages a trust bond between infant and parent.
6. Beware of baby trainers– Base your parenting on your child, not previous “how-to” styles.
7. Balance– Remember to give attention to yourself when you need it.
Dee Snider, musician/author and guest on the panel, acknowledges the style as similar, if not identical, to his family’s mechanics.
“Baby, baby, baby, baby,” he says, laughing. “Those are the four ‘B’s’ of my life.”
It’s true, as Luscombe points out, that parenting has evolved: smoking while pregnant is, nowadays, heavily discouraged, and television isn’t the cure-all for a bored child. However, she poses the question: “Has the pendulum swung too far?”