N. Ireland families want their children to inherit peace
May 21, 1998
Paul McCabe and his daughter, Una, play traditional Irish music
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From Correspondent Christiane Amanpour
AUGHNACLOY, Northern Ireland (CNN) -- The McCabe family looks like any normal, happy family. Father Paul and his daughter, Una, play traditional Irish music, while in the kitchen,
mother Eilish and son, Finabarr, finish fixing dinner before
he goes off to play Gaelic football.
But this normal-looking family lives in extraordinary
circumstances. They are Catholics living in predominately
Protestant Northern Ireland.
"My children have never grown up in a normal society," Eilish
says. "Una and Finabarr don't know what it's like to
Even though in their town of Aughnacloy soldiers are merely
following routine and not looking for anything special, "You
always kind of feel alienated in your own society, because
you can't go up and down the streets without there being
heavy security," Una says.
"You feel like you've done something wrong," she adds.
"It means missing out on knowing the other half of town,"
says Finabarr. "You don't get to know everybody."
Division seems a birthright
Catholic and Protestant youths go to different schools and
even play different games. Finabarr and his friends play
Gaelic football, and rarely does a Protestant join them.
Adults go to separate pubs. Catholics drink at the Rossmore
Arms, while Protestants drink down the street.
In Northern Ireland, it seems, division is a birthright.
The McCabes say they will vote "yes" on the peace referendum
Friday because they want equality and police reform, because
they want to feel at home in their own land.
Like almost every family here, the McCabes lost someone they
loved during sectarian violence. As parents, they want a
different future for their children, while their children
just want a chance.
'I don't want her to be brought up with hate'
Alex and Cathy Calderwood pray before eating a meal
In contrast, Alex and Cathy Calderwood, like many Protestants
in their Belfast community, say they don't trust the peace
proposal and will vote against it. But they, too, want a
different future for their 16-month-old daughter Mary Ellen.
"I don't want her to be brought up with hate. I don't want
her to be brought up with a stereotypical view," Cathy says.
This family knows all about hate and stereotypes. Alex joined
a Protestant paramilitary group at 16 and spent 13 years in
jail for killing a Catholic.
"Because of the hatred that I had for Catholics, I wanted to
take action against people from that community. And yes, I
did want to kill people from that community, simply because
of the way that I grew up as a child," he says.
But in jail, he had a religious experience and repented. Now,
he's determined to work with other at-risk youngsters, trying
to keep them from giving in to the culture of violence that
"In 30 years of troubles, Protestant tears are the same as
Catholic tears. That would be the message I would hope to get
across, that Protestants and Catholics are the same in the
sense that we can work together for social harmony," he says.