- Sex is the glue that holds us together, and without it, couples can begin to feel like roommates or "just friends"
- Desire isn't always spontaneous. It can also be responsive; put arousal on your weekly calendar
Ian Kerner is a licensed psychotherapist, certified sexuality counselor and New York Times best-selling author. Read more from him on his website, iankerner.com.
(CNN)With the holidays in full swing, you and your partner are probably more focused on family, travel and food than on spicing up your sex life.