(CNN) -- For weeks, families of the passengers aboard Malaysia Airlines Flight 370 endured an agonizing wait -- desperate for word of the fate of their loved ones. But when the first piece of definitive news finally arrived, for some of them it came not from a personal phone call or meeting, but a text message.
"Malaysia Airlines deeply regrets that we have to assume beyond any reasonable doubt that MH370 has been lost and that none of those on board survived. As you will hear in the next hour from Malaysia's Prime Minster we must now accept all evidence suggests the plane went down in the southern Indian Ocean," it read in English.
The CEO of the airlines said it was the best way to reach the family members who Malaysia Airlines didn't reach by phone or talk to in person. But to many communications experts it was a cold and distant way for someone to find out their relative was dead.
The partner of missing passenger Philip Wood told reporters by e-mail that she received a text message just minutes before a Monday news conference in which Malaysian Prime Minister Najib Razak delivered the news that the last known position of the plane was in the middle of the ocean with no place to land but the water.
Sarah Bajc said in her e-mail the announcement didn't bring closure, because there was no mention of debris confirmed to be from the plane. She didn't say in her message whether she was put off by finding out by text; instead she was focused on taking some time to grieve.
Malaysia Airlines said the text messages were sent after other attempts to reach the victims' relatives.
"Wherever humanly possible, we did so in person with the families or by telephone, using SMS only as an additional means of ensuring fully that the nearly 1,000 family members heard the news from us and not from the media," Malaysia Airlines CEO Ahmad Jauhari Yahya said, adding that they had little time to deliver the news before it was known to the world.
For the past 16 days, the families have been begging officials for more news about what happened to the plane and the 239 people on board. They've been critical of how slowly some of it was disseminated.
CNN's Sara Sidner, at a hotel in Kuala Lumpur where many relatives of the victims had gathered Monday, said the grieving families were upset but didn't care how the message was delivered.
"At this point they don't really care how the information got to them, they care that they were briefed, they care that they now know something more about what might have happened to their family members," she said.
Still, it appears some family members were notified initially by text, something many public relations experts said was another communications misstep for the airline.
Texts lack warmth, empathy
Doing so was "insensitive, inappropriate and very unproductive in attempting to resurrect your image and credibility," aviation law expert and crisis consultant Robert Alpert Sr. said.
A La Salle University communications professor said it still probably wasn't the right medium to use.
"Whether a text message should be used at all in this situation is debatable," said Michael Smith. "Until all the families are personally notified, it seems an insensitive way to communicate this news. You warn people of an emergency via text message; you don't tell them their loved ones have died via text."
Paul Levinson, a professor at Fordham, agreed and added that a text is cold compared with "the warmth of a human voice."
As Judith Glaser, the CEO of Benchmark Communications, put it, Malaysia Airlines is responsible for the people on the plane, and as such it needs to actively help people handle the most difficult situation of their lives.
"People need to have an empathetic ear," she said.
Rush to deliver news?
There are several basic things to consider in how to best send a message, said Tammy R. Vigil, an assistant professor of communication at Boston University.
How serious is it? How important is it? How timely is it? The context of the message (will this be the first word someone gets) is another factor in choosing the medium.
She said the medium always affects how the message -- and the messenger -- are viewed.
Psychologist Erik Fisher told CNN that he thinks officials didn't think through the emotional impact of the text, instead being too concerned with getting the news to the families quickly.
"Processing a text that ... confirms that your loved one is lost is painful," he said.
Mark W. Tatge, a professor at DePauw University's Center for Contemporary Media, wrote in an e-mail that he thinks the text message is symptomatic of a breakdown in the way society communicates. It is cheap, fast and efficient, but there's no emotion from either sender or recipient. Interaction is absent.
"We don't receive or see pained facial expressions," he said. "There is no uncomfortable body language that we can process and therefore alter the course of our communication message."
The experts were in consensus that the impersonal and imprecise nature of a short text is best saved for alerting families to attend a meeting or call for more information.