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6 friends every mom needs in her momtourage

By Lian Dolan, Oprah.com
Every mom needs time away from her life as a mother. Enter the No Kids, No Thanks Friend.
Every mom needs time away from her life as a mother. Enter the No Kids, No Thanks Friend.
STORY HIGHLIGHTS
  • Without female friends, there would be more mental health days in Mommyville
  • Even mothers need a rival to keep them on their toes
  • There is always one mom who knows everything going on at school
RELATED TOPICS
  • Friendships
  • Parenting

(OPRAH.com) -- Forget about raising kids...it takes a village just to get Mom from Monday to Friday in one piece.

That's why every mother needs a "momtourage." Because without our female friends, there would be a lot more mental health days in Mommyville.

Here's a list of key friends every mom needs:

The 'in case of emergency' friend

Solid, reliable, carries her cell phone at all times, the ICE friend can literally save your life. Whether it's a medical meltdown or a babysitter bailout, she is there for you and your kids. Put her down as an emergency contact, and you have nothing to worry about. All hail the ICE Friend.

The 'LOL' friend

Every mother needs one friend who is just a hoot, regaling you with the hilarious story of a bad boss or a school project disaster. Sometimes, motherhood is not that funny. But an LOL Friend makes you see that it can be -- if you lighten up a little bit.

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The 'ear to the ground' friend

No, I'm not talking about gossip here, because that's impolite. But there is always one mom, usually the mom of an active girl, who knows everything going on at school. From homework to weekend parties, the Ear to the Ground Friend is a go-to resource. For those of us who live at the edges of information (and by that, I mean the mothers of boys), any source for what is happening is always welcome.

The 'life coach' friend

Technically, she's not trained in anything psychological or medical, but the Life Coach Friend really knows how to motivate you. One 45-minute walk with Life Coach Friend, and you're updating your résumé, signing up for golf lessons and ridding your wardrobe of plaid. Life Coach Friend absorbs self-help material and preaches it back at you with astonishing success.

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The 'frenemy'

Admit it, it's true. Even top athletes need a rival to keep them on their toes. So do mothers.

Chances are, your Frenemy is always one step ahead of you: Her house is cleaner, her kids are smarter and her skin has more collagen. But that's okay, because your Frenemy forces you to focus on what's really important in your life and make it better.

Maybe you've lost the skin elasticity battle, but you are winning the hair highlighting game.

The 'no kids, no thanks' friend

Every mom needs time away from her life as a mother. Enter the No Kids, No Thanks Friend. She goes to movies! She knows the trendiest restaurants! She still wears pants with nonexpandable waistbands!

One afternoon with No Kids Friend revives the spirit and reminds you that's there is life outside the laundry room.

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