Jon will always love Kate, but is in love with Hailey

(People.com) -- Jon Gosselin says that, while it was over between him and wife Kate last October, he did try counseling in an effort to save their 10-year union.

"I worked on my marriage," the reality star, 32, told PEOPLE outside his Pennsylvania home on Wednesday.

"I went to therapy. I have huge bills so [detractors] can't denounce that ... For [Kate] to say she'd been working on it -- well, I'd been working on it too, and at one point in time I just gave up," Jon said. "There's a point in time where you just say, 'This is not going to work.' So I just moved on."

He said he reached that decision in October 2008. In May, he said he began "talking" to Hailey Glassman, 22, but they did not start dating until after Kate, 34, filed for divorce on June 22, because it "wasn't appropriate."

Now he and Glassman are "boyfriend and girlfriend," he said.

"I love Hailey," he said. "I'll always love Kate. I went through a whole bunch of pictures today, and it's sad to see something that was good turn bad but we moved in two different directions. We know that."

He said anyone watching "Jon & Kate Plus 8" could tell they were having problems. "We move further and further apart because we're so frustrated," he says. "But you have to understand reality TV. We can get in a fight today and have to do an interview tonight."

As for his soon-to-be ex: "I have no ill will toward Kate. She's the mother of my kids. She's a great mom. She does a lot for them."

On Friday, Jon and Kate reunited briefly to send their sextuplets off to their first day of school. Earlier this month, police were called when the couple argued at their house in Wernersville, Pa.

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